Monday, June 25, 2007


We went to a class the other night about discipline. Not that disciplining an adopted child is any different than disciplining a biological child, but we also have to remember the wise saying from an adult adoptee: "Don't keep reminding me that I'm adopted, but never forget that I'm adopted either". Our child's adoption will be a fact of life, and a fact that may make an impact on different situations. It's referred to as "wearing our adoption glasses". When our children act out, it's good to evaluate whether or not they are experiencing some emotions about their adoption that are influencing their behavior.

We also took a quiz on our parenting style, and were relieved to find out that we seem fairly close in our approach to different situations. It will still be a day by day discovery process, but at least we have a common starting point.

On another note, we spent the weekend with the Fisher clan up at the cottage. It was the first time in a long time that all the cousins were together - and although this generation remains "the kids", we realized that now we outnumber the "adults" (even though we're now adults ourselves). The generations move on, I guess...before we know it, there will be a crop of actual "kids" to replace us... here's a picture of the whole group together...

1 comment:

Sarah said...

Here is a good book to read that can help you two get a good look at how to prepare your relationship now so that you don't lose touch with eachother when you finally are blessed with your child. "His Needs Her Needs for Parents" by Willard F Harley, Jr.

We just finished a study in our sunday school and it was really great! For Dave and I, though, it is really hard to follow the advice since military life was not taken into account when the book was written. It is a good book, none the less!

We will be up in Madison in a month. Call me sometime or email me to let me know if you would like to get together. We are thinking about having a bunch of us meet to go bowling one evening. that is something we could all enjoy and bunches of us could catch up again.

God bless you!
Sarah Wilde
904-318-2464 (new cell #)